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"You don't have to swim faster than the shark, just faster than the guy next to you." - Anonymous
Sunday, September 11, 2005
10 Dating Rules For Guys
Before we begin today's post, how about a minute of silence for the victims of Sept 11?
Okay, so you're out there in the dating world and working hard to be successful at it. You already know the generic guidelines your mother drilled into your head: be a gentleman, brush your teeth, comb your hair, don't be late, have a sense of humor...
But what you really need is a set of real-world rules for your dealings with the female population, some hard-and-fast basics which probably didn’t apply during mom’s time. Here are the secrets of successful guys:
ask her out once & only once
When it comes to dating, too many guys put their brains on hold and start thinking with their dicks. They become desperate for sex and keep pursuing a woman when she's only marginally interested (or not interested at all), just because they're frantically obsessed with getting laid. Sure, a lot of women are natural game-players - they love to test men, exert their sexual power, and be pursued.
So expect a little of this at the start. But don't keep asking her out if you keep getting a "No" or "I'm too busy." The cardinal rule is: if a woman is interested in a man, she'll make herself available to him. Even if she has to turn you down, an interested woman will say something like, "But I'd really like to go out. Maybe next week?"
If you get any other response, just dust off your hands and keep walking (she just might develop some respect for you and change her mind).
Learn how to be a great lover
Many women complain that men don't know their way around the female anatomy, or even make the effort to bring a woman to orgasm - they just thrust and grunt and roll over and go to sleep.
These days there's no excuse - there's plenty of information available out there on the techniques of lovemaking and what women want. Or you can quiz a female friend for some pointers on the best way to please a woman.
If all else fails, go straight to the source and ask your partner what she likes (don't worry, it's not like asking for directions - you won't lose face). If you take the time to educate yourself, you're going to make a lot of ladies very happy and keep yourself in meow for life.
Go for the babes, don't put up with an attitude and always keep her guessing…
always date "over your head"
Never, ever lower your standards just to get a date. If you see a pretty girl you think is way out of your league, go for it anyway! It's just much more exciting to be with a woman who really turns you on.
Unless you're very rich or very handsome, odds are you won't always win, but when you strike gold, you'll be very glad you did.
do not tolerate intolerable behavior
In our society, women expect to be coddled, pampered and catered to by men. They expect men to tolerate anything they dish out just by dangling the promise of sex in front of them. So they feel perfectly free to be bitchy, moody, inconsistent, and rude.
Or they don't return phone calls and break dates at the last minute, expecting you to be nice about it because they know they hold the sexual trump card.
The rule is, call her on her bad behavior - tell her you don't want to be treated this way. If she acts like a bitch, cut the date short and tell her why. If she breaks a date for no good reason, don't ever call her again. If she's really interested, she'll change her behavior.
don't be predictable
Many men make the critical mistake of slipping into complacency in their dating lives. It's all too easy to take a woman for granted - to just assume that she'll always be there.
But women have a low boredom threshold and falling into predictable patterns can sound the death knell for a relationship - not to mention opening the door for more adventuresome rivals.
So constantly surprise your woman. Pursue her aggressively, then back off. Give her some mixed signals. Break a date once in a while or show up unexpectedly at her doorstep. You don't want to overdo it, but don't let her get bored.
don't be a doormat
Never act needy, desperate, or clingy - and dude, never grovel for sex.
Assert your independence. Stand up for your rights as a man - refuse to tolerate any kind of sexual blackmail or manipulation. Just because you're nice, doesn't mean you're weak.
Stop being sorry you're a man, take time away from her, and above all, don't make her your sex slave…
never apologize for your masculine sexuality
Our world has been feminized to death and as women have gained an outspoken international forum, the result has been a debilitating degradation of the male gender. Men are "pigs," "rapists" and "jerks" who "can't keep it in their pants."
An innocent flirtatious look becomes "sexual harassment." Men have been PC'ed into wusses. It's normal for a man to be attracted to a woman and it's normal for a man to want to have sex. If your woman isn't able to comprehend this, then find one who does.
don't be available all the time
Women love a challenge -- they crave mystery and drama in their lives. There's nothing wrong with taking a mini-vacation from your girlfriend to make time for your own guy stuff.
Make sure she realizes that she doesn't have you "all sewn up." There's nothing wrong with showing open interest in another woman. Make your girlfriend work for it a little, so she doesn't take you for granted.
stop paying for dates
Tell her that you expect a 50/50 relationship. She's got a job and earns equal pay, so why should you be forced to pick up her entertainment bill? If you do, then all you're doing is trading money for sex.
have fun!
Unfortunately, a lot of guys are intimidated by women because of the awesome sexual power they exert. We're afraid of rejection. We walk on eggshells around women, trying to second-guess if what we're doing is "right."
Lighten up! Have confidence. Be yourself. Guys who are successful with women have fun. They treat their dates like a bratty little sister, not like some mysterious, unattainable goddess set up on a pedestal.
golden rules of dating
So that's it. If you put these rules into action, they'll help you pick a clear path through the dating minefield and come up a winner every time.
Dave Avran is the author of Sex-Ploytation. He has appeared on radio and tv shows and has been featured many times in the popular media on how a fat balding single (read woman-less) loser like himself can con the public with articles very similar to the one above.
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man u r so bloody male chauvinistic that its not worth flaming u even.
- gillian
- gillian
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posted by 
: 1:08 PM
: 1:08 PM u know I actually liked you untill i read 2day's article. so sad. y do u hate womwen?
- azean s
- azean s
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posted by : 1:10 PM
: 1:10 PM Hey Dave,
I agree with most of what you mentioned in the last Blog about treating a
woman.
However.... the pay factor? i do pay for my fiance most of the time.....
the reason is this, i earn 5 times as much and thus my typical
entertainment costs are out of her league.... i would rather elevate her social standards than lower mine simply because I don't mind paying huge prices for a few drinks to enjoy higher quality ambience...... and to hang
out with my freinds that are at similar pay rates.
The same rings true for the home we are looking at. It is out of her price range!! So i will pay for it..... mostly because I have a standard of living I would like to maintain. She does have her pride and a sense of responsibility so does not want to be a burden and has offered to pay bills (electric, water, Astro and half of the groceries).
As much as I agree that woman should be contributors if they earn....... 95% of woman will not
put up with a relationship skyrocketing thier expenses.... unless of course she earns more than she can spend on herself (If that exists)!!
So, she is contributing how and when she can....... Do you think what I am doing is wrong?
- PF
I agree with most of what you mentioned in the last Blog about treating a
woman.
However.... the pay factor? i do pay for my fiance most of the time.....
the reason is this, i earn 5 times as much and thus my typical
entertainment costs are out of her league.... i would rather elevate her social standards than lower mine simply because I don't mind paying huge prices for a few drinks to enjoy higher quality ambience...... and to hang
out with my freinds that are at similar pay rates.
The same rings true for the home we are looking at. It is out of her price range!! So i will pay for it..... mostly because I have a standard of living I would like to maintain. She does have her pride and a sense of responsibility so does not want to be a burden and has offered to pay bills (electric, water, Astro and half of the groceries).
As much as I agree that woman should be contributors if they earn....... 95% of woman will not
put up with a relationship skyrocketing thier expenses.... unless of course she earns more than she can spend on herself (If that exists)!!
So, she is contributing how and when she can....... Do you think what I am doing is wrong?
- PF
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posted by : 11:15 AM
: 11:15 AM I guess most of what you're saying makes sense. I know I agree with you.
- Sue T
- Sue T
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posted by : 3:18 PM
: 3:18 PM You've hit the nail on the head dude. My friends and I have had the same experience when it comes to dating women.
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